Is there such a thing as being too independent?
This is not anything new to me. Friends and acquaintances have told me numerous times that I am a very independent person. But now I’m questioning if being independent is a good or bad thing. Can you become too independent?
We can assume that being overly dependent or co-dependent can be unhealthy. But I think that there is also flaws in becoming too independent.
And yes- I do pride myself in being an independent woman. I pay rent, buy groceries, go shopping and volunteer by myself. But being independent doesn’t just mean paying your own way. It is about taking care of yourself and because of that, when everything you do is for yourself the flaw is that it can be a lot of pressure. If you are always “taking care of business” you miss out on experiences with other people and you can become rigid.
For example, when you let others help you with something that you’re having trouble with, you are demonstrating that you trust in them. Letting your guard down to let someone else help control a situation can make the other person feel good. Many people enjoy doing kind gestures for others. Maybe sparing your pride and being flexible for a moment can be beneficial. When you do everything on your own you build a routine and sometimes forget to step out of that routine to cultivate new experiences with others.
So what do you think? Is being too independent a thing? Should we try to learn a balance of the two?
Skirt from Winners
Crop top from Urban Planet
Jacket from Laura
Until next time,
*please excuse the poor quality of the photo above
Welcome to 2017 – we made it ! A new year represents the chance to begin again. A popular topic would be to discuss new year resolutions, but to be honest, I find that notion slightly dated. Since a resolution means that you make a firm decision to do or not to do something. My ‘resolution’ is to not make any concrete decisions. I feel 2017 is the perfect time to make less decisions and be more carefree.
This year- all that I hope to achieve is to take on the opportunities that help me grow. These opportunities can be self-created, be given, and may change aspects of my life. Maybe I will want to learn a new skill, be more spontaneous, be given a dilemma, or become a morning person (that won’t happen).
A new year allows us to focus on the aspects of ourselves that we might of missed in the previous year.
What are your thoughts about resolutions? Do you have any in mind ? What opportunities are you hoping for in 2017?
Black Dress from Urban Planet
Until next time,
It has been a while since I posted a look (sorry!). Life has finally caught up to me and I have been very busy juggling work, friends and time for myself. I came across this quote from a novel called `The Book of Tomorrow` that has resonated with me.
“You should not try to stop everything from happening. Sometimes you are meant to feel emotions that are not necessarily enjoyable. It is because they are necessary to getting to the next part of yourself.“ (*altered/shortened)
I found this to be a powerful message for anyone. Looking back, so much has changed since I decided to move to a new city and start a new job. All the emotions and experiences surrounding this has been a roller coaster but no doubt worth every minute. That is why I titled this post `Trust in Progress`because sometimes we forget to trust the progress we are doing and going to make within our lives. Time has a funny way of revealing things to us. And what we should focus on is the progress we are making now. What can I do now to make me happier, to make my loved ones happier? It is important to have trust in ourselves that we are doing everything we can to get to the next chapter of our lives. Hopefully in the next few days you too can reflect and discover how much you have grown as time has gone by.
I would like to wish everyone an amazing holiday season! I am heading to Mexico for a family Christmas vacation that I am so excited about.
For this post I had my friend & photographer Armando take these incredible photos for this grunge look.
Bodysuit by La Vie En Rose
Jeans and belt from H&M
Jean jacket from Abercrombie (mens)
Duster coat from H&M
L`Oreal burgundy Lipstick
until next time,
Hello everyone ! Today is Friday and that means it’s time for the weekend , who doesn’t like the sound of that ? Tomorrow night is the famous Nuit Blanche in Toronto. This will be my first time attending and exploring the late night foods and art work around the city. As the weather cools… Continue reading Fall Essentials
Hello Everyone! What has been new ? I am officially a brunette now! I went from blonde to a golden brown for the fall. I am quite happy the way the colour turned out, since I dyed it at home. What do you think? For my outfit, the occasion was food (haha I am being… Continue reading In my mind
Hello everyone !
September is the month of “happenings”. There is The TIFF, where celebrities from all over are staying in the city of Toronto. And with the cooler breeze coming out, everyone’s grabbing their bomber and leather jackets.
Fall is my favourite style season. The colour palette of dark greens, burgundies and purples look amazing on every piece at every store! I can’t resist statement jackets and tailored jeans.
It has been a fun month so far exploring new parts of Toronto and my good friend has moved back to the city, and we have been planning to visit places like the AGO and the Ripleys Aquarium.
So I challenge you to explore your city and see what adventures come up!
Top from Winners
Duster coat and shorts are from Forever 21
Necklace from a boutique in The Netherlands
Photographs were taken by my friend, Armando. Go check out his page : @armando_lazcano
Here is to a great weekend and to the beginning of the month of February. Saturday nights at the local bar are the busiest! I decided to wear a crop top that I borrowed from a friend, because sometimes you just want to wear something new!
I wore this forest green crop top from Stitches, Black leggings from Winners, a statement necklace I purchased at a boutique in the Netherlands, and shoes from Aldo.
Until next time,