We are in November now, and I can’t believe how fast this year has gone! Living in a big city has quite a lot of perks, and with having so much to do, you don’t even realize how much time has gone by. Lately, situations with friends and strangers has got me thinking about the topic of honesty, or more specifically – speaking your mind.
We have all been in that situation where we want to speak about something but we outweigh the pro’s and con’s because we think about how it may affect someone. But how do you determine if you should speak now or hold something inside? Well folks, I thought of something that may help with your next ‘speak now’ dilemma.
When you find yourself in that situation, ask yourself three questions:
Is it kind? (Don’t say it, if it isn’t nice)
Is it true? (It can be honest but is it truthful to the other person?)
Is it necessary? (Is your statement required? Will it aid the situation? Or will it damage it?)
To elaborate, here’s an example of something people do not normally say.
Would you tell a stranger that you think they have an ugly outfit? Would you? Because if you would, then you are seriously rude. But, the reasons why most people don’t say this to a stranger is because it is not kind, it is not fact (true), and it is DEFINITELY not necessary.
While we each have a voice in this world and I think it is a tool that we should use more often, there is always going to be that fine line between “to say” or ” not to say”.
Having a voice is powerful, but mindfulness is even greater.
Be kind. Stay true. Be you.
Crop top from Topshop
Skirt from Marshalls
Boots from Clarks
Until next time,