Is there such a thing as being too independent?
This is not anything new to me. Friends and acquaintances have told me numerous times that I am a very independent person. But now I’m questioning if being independent is a good or bad thing. Can you become too independent?
We can assume that being overly dependent or co-dependent can be unhealthy. But I think that there is also flaws in becoming too independent.
And yes- I do pride myself in being an independent woman. I pay rent, buy groceries, go shopping and volunteer by myself. But being independent doesn’t just mean paying your own way. It is about taking care of yourself and because of that, when everything you do is for yourself the flaw is that it can be a lot of pressure. If you are always “taking care of business” you miss out on experiences with other people and you can become rigid.
For example, when you let others help you with something that you’re having trouble with, you are demonstrating that you trust in them. Letting your guard down to let someone else help control a situation can make the other person feel good. Many people enjoy doing kind gestures for others. Maybe sparing your pride and being flexible for a moment can be beneficial. When you do everything on your own you build a routine and sometimes forget to step out of that routine to cultivate new experiences with others.
So what do you think? Is being too independent a thing? Should we try to learn a balance of the two?
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